http://metportfolio.cardiffmet.ac.uk/view/view.php?id=510https://learn.globalclassroom.us/portal/view/view.php?id=192https://mahara.ph-noe.ac.at/view/view.php?id=76925https://mahara.wakhok.ac.jp/view/view.php?id=1279https://myportfolio.ac.nz/view/view.php?id=364146https://eportfolio.unideb.hu/view/view.php?id=8934https://schoolparents.com/view/view.php?id=390930http://fifemahara.co.uk/view/view.php?id=308364https://mahara.teachingandlearning.ie/view/view.php?id=1293https://eportfolio.uni-eszterhazy.hu/view/view.php?id=21406I’m not saying promiscuity makes you a bad person or partner but personally I would rather take my chances with a girl who waits to have sex with someone than I would a girl who likes sleeping around simply because it feels good. Also when I hear a guy rant and rave out of nowhere about how his gf has a large sexual past but hes totally cool with it and everyone else is insecure and scared it makes me feel like he has a problem with his gfs history not me. anyway thats just how I see things. I may not be the most sexually experienced or even oldest guy here but I have learned enough in my 20 years to decide whether or not a girl is right for me and whether or not I should be sleeping around.
NP says:
January 15, 2013 at 12:42 am
I know many good women, who are faithful and loving and compassionate and family oriented, and very few of them have 5 partners or less. I also find it hard to believe that women who have slept with more than 5 people are 80% likely to have unstable marriages. Where did that “study” take place? What were the variables?
People are getting married in their 30s these days. Odds are, they will have some experience with the opposite sex, and there is nothing wrong with that. 9 out of 10 people are having premarital sex, even before this generation. That is a factual number. Not some hyperbole.
Furthermore, the only men I know who have issues with the number of men a woman has slept with are jealous, insecure ones. They are often the ones who believe women belong in the kitchen and should cater to them and raise the babies. That’s not the reality for women anymore. They live. They travel. They experience things separately from men. We don’t live in a hunter-gatherer society. We have paternity testing if necessary. There is no need to pretend that the rules of 2000 BC are the ones we must still live by.
On the other hand, I also know many women will lie about the number of partners for fear of judgment. So when men think their girls have had sex with 2 people, the answer could be 20.
If someone is trying to make peace with themselves through sex, yes, that is a problem. If someone is sleeping with other’s husbands and significant others, yes, that is a problem. But if someone simply enjoys sex and knows what she wants and is being safe about it, whose business is that but her own? Why should it matter?
Aaron says:
January 15, 2013 at 6:24 am