http://metportfolio.cardiffmet.ac.uk/view/view.php?id=528https://learn.globalclassroom.us/portal/view/view.php?id=194https://mahara.ph-noe.ac.at/view/view.php?id=77207https://eportfolio.unideb.hu/view/view.php?id=9193https://schoolparents.com/view/view.php?id=393334http://fifemahara.co.uk/view/view.php?id=308643https://mahara.teachingandlearning.ie/view/view.php?id=1353https://eportfolio.uni-eszterhazy.hu/view/view.php?id=21924https://remote.misis.ru/eportfolios/4705/%D0%92_%D0%BD%D0%B0%D1%87%D0%B0%D0%BB%D0%BE/6_Women_Share_How_They_Manifested_LoveEven if the instant gratification and sense of entitlement can be headed off, hookup culture still manages to retain its position as the “only” way in the minds of far too many. I believe it holds this position because the kids in college have been stripped of their responsibility, both in terms of how they evaluate their options and in terms of their subsequent decisions, their actions, “…there simply is no real alternative” (Bogle). The culture at large enables them to play w/o taking responsibility for the fact that (a) they always have a choice; (b) there are consequences of every choice; and (c) those consequences are theirs to evaluate and theirs to own. Every time.
The college kids have been made out to be victims of some kind of social paradox created by forces beyond their control, thus their actions are merely attempts to navigate this complex environment forced upon them. As long the SMP is viewed in this regard, the majority of college students will continue to make decisions w/o owning up to both the pretext and the outcomes of those decisions. They have been relieved of any responsibility for both ends. We hear time and again about how there is just no other way, you either play or sit out and gosh sitting out is just not an option. And this thinking is allowed to go unchecked.
It is refreshing to see it stated as a choice – even more so with 3 years of celibacy as a possible outcome. Yeah, it can be tough to find a BF/GF/LTR, you may not. You may be *gasp*, alone for a while. To me these choices go to character. But these days if we associate character with past decisions we are judgmental and/or closed-minded throwbacks.
These days character judgement can only be viewed relative to intent, the actual choices, behaviors are whitewashed, e.g. “I want(ed) a LTR” is what counts, not the three years spent hooking-up. Three years hooking up in search of, is still viewed as more acceptable than three years of opting out or pursuing other methods. And if they are preemptively relieved of the responsibility of their actions so long as their intent was something greater, the other possible choices suddenly seem much more risky, if those options even make it to the table. Hookup culture survives on more than just the naiveté of frosh-soph women in the crosshairs of frat boys.
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Abbot says:
December 22, 2012 at 1:05 pm
‘your body is a wonderland’ but you know what, it’s your choice if you want wonderland to be an exclusive club . . . or if you want wonderland to be a theme park where kids get in free on Saturdays with a canned good,”
“The idea behind monogamy is that it is almost a state of higher evolution, anyone can be a slut, but it takes some logic and reasoning to say ‘I think I am going to be with one person and not sleep with the world’,”